Anonymous said: Hey John, I love your blog and the way you answer peoples questions so I thought I'd ask for advice! I'm a 15 year old girl and am trying to lose some weight. I don't think I'm huge or anything but my boyfriend thinks I am. He said he doesn't find me attractive anymore and I should lose some weight. I tried but failed and he got really pissed and said to eat less. I tried again and I was doing well, I only ate 7 apples all week! Nothing else (YAY!) Anyway, I splurged and ate heaps (continue)

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(continue)I ate a sandwich and 3 Oreo cookies all in one sitting. I told him and he got really mad and hit me. It hurt a lot (I guess I deserved it though) and I’m trying really hard not to stuff up again. Can you give me some tips on how to stay on track and get back to eating one a apple a day? I know I can do it but just need some extra advice! thank you :)

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Sweet Anon, 

Thanks for writing. I’d love to help you. I’ll address my thoughts in the order you wrote them. 

First, any boy / man that tells you they aren’t attracted to you because they think you are huge doesn’t deserve you. You are beautifully made just how you are and if he doesn’t see that, leave that man/child behind. This is your body. You own it and if you want to get more fit that is one thing, but if a boy thinks he has the right to control your body, that my friend is a big red flag. 

Second, any boy / man that would hit you is scum. There is no other way to put it that does not involve cussing. Dear anon, no matter what you did, you did not deserve to be hit. Let me repeat that, no matter what you did, you did not deserve to be hit! Any boy / man that thinks he had the right to hit you for any reason is no man to me. If you were my daughter, i’d be hunting this child down. No joke. 

Finally, I can’t help you with advice on getting to an apple a day eating. That just isn’t healthy. At any age, but especially 15, your body needs protein, and fat and carbohydrates to grow and develop. Restricting yourself to an apple a day for weight loss is both  dangerous and ineffective. I healthy diet of all food groups and cardio and weightlifting is much more healthy.

So here are my recommendations dear anon.

  • Tell your parents about what happened. They need to know someone hit you. If you can’t do that for some reason, tell a guidance counselor. Get someone in your corner that can help resolve this.
  • Dump his ass. If he hit you once, it will happen again and will probably get worse.
  • If you want to get more fit, there are lots of healthy resources here to help you do that, though honestly I think this is by far a secondary concern to your safety.

Good luck dear anon. (Hugs)

Struggling

I have been struggling to eat right and make time for exercise the last 2 to 3 weeks. I think it’s a bit of a mental block for me. Hitting 76 lbs total gone—well, I’ve never made it past a total of 80 lbs lost before yoyoing before. I am going to get this under control though. I’m not going to give up this time.

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Finally!!!  Total down is 76.4 lbs.  I shed all that bloat from vacation and hormones and finally passed my 75 lb milestone.  Woohoo!

Finally!!! Total down is 76.4 lbs. I shed all that bloat from vacation and hormones and finally passed my 75 lb milestone. Woohoo!

Back from Vacation

Been back a day or two from our vacation.  We went to Colorado for my husband’s 20th high school reunion, spent some time around Colorado Springs and Denver.  Went into Rocky Mountain National Park (I love National Parks!) took a horseback trail ride up a mountain outside of Estes Park.  Then we drove through Wyoming to South Dakota and visited Wind Cave National Park (I love National Parks!), Crazy Horse Memorial, Mount Rushmore, Deadwood, and finally Badlands National Park (Did I mention how much I love National Parks?!)  It was a whirlwind vacation and I just wish we could have spent a day or two more at each of these beautiful places.  

Everyone I see keeps asking if I am relaxed after our vacation—here’s the deal, folks. We don’t do relaxing vacations. Or at least—rarely do we do a relaxing vacation. We POWER vacation. It’s about gaining as many experiences and memories as we can. We love a roadtrip and if we are going to roadtrip we want to see and do as much as possible in that time we have. And for me, I want to see and experience as much of our country’s history and national treasures as I can. I have a goal for our family and that’s all 50 states by the time the kids are out of the house. We probably won’t make that happen, but I sure want to try! This trip added three new states for the kids, two for me, and one for my husband. He’s ahead of the rest of us at 30 states, while I’m sitting at 27 and the kids are at 22. 22 states for the kids is a lot more than I had experienced at their age! When I was Jason’s age I had only been to Kansas, Arkansas, Missouri, and Texas! (Oh and Washington D.C., Virginia, & Maryland because of my 5th grade trip to D.C.)

I came home, stepped on the scale and have gained a whopping 9 pounds! (While my husband lost six!) I swear I didn’t overeat!  I could see a pound or two, given how much we ate out, the occasional dessert, and the lack of fruits and veggies, but NINE?  It has to be water retention from all the processed foods, salts, and hormones. 

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I have donated two trash bags of clothes already and filled a third bag to take to the charity thrift shop this week. I’m running out of clothes that fit!

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I have donated two trash bags of clothes already and filled a third bag to take to the charity thrift shop this week. I’m running out of clothes that fit!

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